In the November 4th Call-in-Show Stef talks about what you should do when you have unpleasant conversations with people. He means for example the 'trolls' at FDR who dare to question the unquestionables (both logical and empirical questions but also psychological questions such as to the nature and psychology of FDR). Anyway, Stef's strong advice to people who have such unpleasant conversations is to get the people out of their lives/to not engage/to walk away/and so on.

But elsewhere (in his book 'On Truth', on countless board threads and podcasts) he repeatedly says that a lot of people don't stay in the FDR 'conversation' because they get asked difficult questions: logical and empirical questions about their arguments, but also psychological questions. Such questions make the conversation very unpleasant for them and they get defensive, hostile or stop responding. Their refusal to truly consider the uncomfortable questions they are asked leads them to miss out on a great opportunity of growth, learning and enlightment. Because the fact that these questions are uncomfortable for them, that they get defenmsive or don't want to respond anymore means that these questions get at deep and fundamental inner conflicts that they are unwilling to face consciously. If they were to face them, and if they were to take that difficult and often uncomfortable and painful road, they could really learn a lot about themselves.


But nowehere does Stef give any objective guidelines how to distinguish between unpleasant conversations that are unpleasant because the others are hostile and conversations that are unpleasant because questions that point to deep and fundamental inner conflicts are asked in them.

Because he fails to provide such a methodology he can use the easy double standard and just say that in the case of unpleasant conversations about FDR and unpleasant questions for FDR'ers, the FDR'ers should just not respond anymore, get the askers of the questions out of their lives and not engage them and not stay in the conversation, while at the same time say that in the case of unpleasant conversations for people who are questioned by FDR'ers they should stay in the conversation if they want to learn something about themselves.