Thirteen Rules for Dealing with Sociopaths in Everyday Life

jawol(48) · Number of posts: 93 Registration date: 2008-11-16

[quote="Cassandra"]^ Sadly, the only option for some people whose lives are being ruined by people who will not change their behaviour is to go no contact.

From my experience of Moly and his teachings changing habits doesn't cut it with him. It is simply 'go', there is no compassion shown to those left behind and he does nothing to improve relationships. Not only that we can see people struggling to eek out a living as potential career's are abandoned. The RTR bullshit is only a cover up. His intended new recruit is all ready entangled in his 'web'. RTR is just a process in the whole charade as he rings up a few more dollars in the till.
Perhaps for some, recognising that a change in habit is necessary, it is worthwhile doing so. Hopefully your missing one will return to a better life. Thing is, they need to go back and find out for themselves but Moly doesn't endorse that.

Cassandra · Number of posts: 77 Location: Australia Registration date: 2009-07-18

NonEntity wrote:

Yep. Point taken. I did NOT defoo, in that I still have contact with other family members, just not my mother. But I still send her birthday presents and mother's day stuff, I just don't engage in contact. She's still my mother and I don't want to 'hurt' her, I just want to protect myself from a relationship which is not beneficial to me.

I've had people tell me that I'm doing a terrible thing because it is hurtful for a mother to lose her son, but they don't seem to consider that I have a side in the conversation as well. Screw 'em. She may have feelings, but then, so do I. It's a two way street. As always. (key word: voluntary, or mutual consent)

- NonE

NonE, having a friend that has gone through this, I think that I understand and empathise with your position. My friend had a very frustrating time just getting people to believe her and would be subjected to well wishing, but unhelpful comments such as "I know your mother loves you very much."

She also went through a lot of conflicted emotions and did a lot of soul searching. She felt guilty, even though she didn't do anything wrong. People do not understand situations like these because it is not normal for a parent to prey on her offspring and they have not had to chose between their own survival and contact with a parent, something that no child should have to go through. Also, sociopathic behaviour can be so insidious, malignant and perverse that even the targets can find themselves shaking their heads and saying "I can't believe she would sink that low!" Sociopaths are experts at pitting people against each other, posing as victim's in public while making their target look bad.

Patience · Number of posts: 368 Location: England Registration date: 2008-08-26

Cassandra wrote:

Going no contact is a painful decision to have to make, which is why I am horrified at the FDR flippant use of defoo.

Cassandra wrote:

Moly is abusing this concept for his own purposes. Mad

Yes, he is abusing the concept for his own purposes, both to continue his mission to destroy families and also to line his own pockets with "voluntary donations" from his followers who believe he has shown them the only way to "personal freedom".